Imagine you’re sitting alone in a restaurant; perusing the menu but not concentrating. The laughter from the next table keeps getting your attention. You look over. One woman has her hand on the other’s shoulder, leaning forward. All the signs of tell-all secrets being shared are there. Laughter erupts. The other woman raises her glass of wine in a toast. Clink, clink go the glasses.
Your eyes are glued to their table wishing you were part of the fun; achingly wishing this was you and your girlfriends.
Reality sets in. You’re miles and miles away from your girlfriends. They’re scattered all over the country, even the world. You’ve been away yourself, busy traveling. Having a dinner table full of girlfriends seems an impossibility. Oh, just to have even one girlfriend within wine-glass vicinity to you would be great.
This was my reality last night. Solo traveling for business with no desire for room service, I ventured into the hotel restaurant for dinner and a glass of wine. I came with my journal to make a few notes. I left with a longing to call every one of my girlfriends.
With us getting more global and the world getting flatter, we often have more friends in other cities and countries than we do in the town we live in. That makes the friendship bonding time even more challenging.
Here are a few ideas on how to keep in touch across the miles and miles and miles:
- Send a Hello via Facebook, Twitter or your social media of choice.
- Write a letter – yes, a real letter with stationery! When’s the last time you’ve done that?
- Create a video (use your smartphone, small video camera or your computer’s camera) and share with your friend what you’d be telling her if she was with you in person.
- Have a video chat with a girlfriend using Skype or ooVoo.
- Better yet, if you’re on Google+, start a Hangout! Hangouts are great for either planned or spontaneous video chats with multiple friends.
- Set a date and time for a mani/pedi (yes, even though you’re in different cities) and have a phone call together while you’re both pampered and polished (bring a headset so as not to mess up those beautiful polished fingernails!)
- BYOB – Each enjoy a bottle of wine over a phone call
- Plan a gals’ weekend at a spa, cruise, hotel, campground – whatever works for you, your friends your tastes and budgets.
Create an annual ritual – maybe a wine tasting adventure in a new part of the world each year, or a pajama party taking turns hosting the event at each other’s homes.A group of us girlfriends are doing a 39-mile Avon Walk for Breast Cancer in New York City in October if you’d like to join us or be there to cheer us on!I’m also thinking an Annual Smart Women Travelers Weekend sure sounds like fun – any ideas for where to go and what to do?
And what perfect timing to talk about girlfriends – it’s National Girlfriends Day on August 1st.
So when you’re unwinding tonight after another crazy-busy day, grab your journal and list what you love about your girlfriends and the ways you’ll connect with them. Then get moving! I’ll definitely be doing the same!
Cheers to all of you, my friends!